A true apology is based on personal responsibility, and neither blame nor shame. It has incredible potential to heal both the person giving it and the person who may or may not elect to receive it (their call). I’ll wait with you. Meanwhile, I need to write a book on apologizing.
Most apologies are insincere. They are motivated by getting caught or found out or fearing losing something as a result of your actions. They are more often transactional versus being a moral correction. If the person who apologizes has value, the apology has value. Most of the people you suggest owe apologies don’t fall into that group and probably never will. Not expecting their apologies anytime soon, if ever, is a smart move.
Don’t be surprised if we hear something like “Apologize, why should I apologize? You can’t blame me for people believing my lies!”
You did everything you could. One day this summer I tried to talk to a woman who had a bumper sticker that said "The Media IS the virus." She believes that the vaccines are killing people. I tried to talk calmly to her. She just kept shouting at me. Finally, in exasperation I said, "Yeh, and the Democrats are eating babies." She said: "They ARE!!!" (She was not joking.)
I can understand accepting blame for one's efforts having lacked persistence and skill, and I definitely accept that blame.
But I want to call out the GOP habit, which I've noticed since the 1990s, of blaming lefties for failing to have convinced them [while they fight hard and dirty against altering their convictions]. That is megalomaniac toddler behavior.
Which is an elaborated way of saying how much I agree with you.
So much of these deaths and lies ( sick of the word “misinformation “!) are due to the GOP and Trump setting things up at the beginning of Covid. Making the issue into one of personal freedom instead of personal responsibility drives me crazy. I don’t have any sympathy for antivaxers dying. It’s natural selection. But I feel for those who have followed protocol and succumbed.
I have no more sympathy left for those people. I take every opportunity on social media to remind people that anti-vaxxers who die of Covid are suckers and losers. We read now that people in rural areas have hospitals filled to capacity, and these are the same people who 1.5 years ago ridiculed New York and other 'Democrat' run cities as getting what they deserved. At the very same time, they said that Covis was a hoax. It was a hoax, all right -- the lies about Covid and then the vaccines came straight outta Putin's troll farms that were so effective in the 2016 election season. They are well-trained and now well-experienced, and they know exactly where the faultlines in our society are and how to widen them to the breaking point.
A true apology is based on personal responsibility, and neither blame nor shame. It has incredible potential to heal both the person giving it and the person who may or may not elect to receive it (their call). I’ll wait with you. Meanwhile, I need to write a book on apologizing.
You're right. It really isn't about blame. It's about taking responsibility.
Most apologies are insincere. They are motivated by getting caught or found out or fearing losing something as a result of your actions. They are more often transactional versus being a moral correction. If the person who apologizes has value, the apology has value. Most of the people you suggest owe apologies don’t fall into that group and probably never will. Not expecting their apologies anytime soon, if ever, is a smart move.
Don’t be surprised if we hear something like “Apologize, why should I apologize? You can’t blame me for people believing my lies!”
I once confessed to doing something wrong not because I got caught, but because it was eating at me. So even that, I guess, was self-preserving.
Better to have a guilty conscience than no conscience at all.
And then there’s the consciously bad who triggered this whole discussion.
True that.
You did everything you could. One day this summer I tried to talk to a woman who had a bumper sticker that said "The Media IS the virus." She believes that the vaccines are killing people. I tried to talk calmly to her. She just kept shouting at me. Finally, in exasperation I said, "Yeh, and the Democrats are eating babies." She said: "They ARE!!!" (She was not joking.)
I can understand accepting blame for one's efforts having lacked persistence and skill, and I definitely accept that blame.
But I want to call out the GOP habit, which I've noticed since the 1990s, of blaming lefties for failing to have convinced them [while they fight hard and dirty against altering their convictions]. That is megalomaniac toddler behavior.
Which is an elaborated way of saying how much I agree with you.
And an articulate way of saying it, too!
*curtsies*
So much of these deaths and lies ( sick of the word “misinformation “!) are due to the GOP and Trump setting things up at the beginning of Covid. Making the issue into one of personal freedom instead of personal responsibility drives me crazy. I don’t have any sympathy for antivaxers dying. It’s natural selection. But I feel for those who have followed protocol and succumbed.
Same here. I feel sorry for the people who did everything right, but got exposed, anyway -- especially those who died before there was a vaccine.
I have no more sympathy left for those people. I take every opportunity on social media to remind people that anti-vaxxers who die of Covid are suckers and losers. We read now that people in rural areas have hospitals filled to capacity, and these are the same people who 1.5 years ago ridiculed New York and other 'Democrat' run cities as getting what they deserved. At the very same time, they said that Covis was a hoax. It was a hoax, all right -- the lies about Covid and then the vaccines came straight outta Putin's troll farms that were so effective in the 2016 election season. They are well-trained and now well-experienced, and they know exactly where the faultlines in our society are and how to widen them to the breaking point.
No patience and I'm to the point of no quarter given. Done.