I feel you from slightly afar, but I don't myself enjoy snark much-- and when I hear myself being sarcastic I know I'm losing my temper and need to take some time to collect myself.
“Forty years go by with someone laying in your bed
Forty years of things you wish you'd never said
How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead”.
Patty Griffith “Long Ride Home”.
Obviously this refers to an intimate relationship but, the bed part aside, it could apply to any relationship. I think sometimes snark or sarcasm aimed at someone who is being hypocritical or dishonest seems appropriate. The phrase “Well bless your heart” comes to mind. Other times it’s roots are in mean spiritedness and I always filter that out. Wait, that’s not true. Oh well, 10:22am (est). I tried.
My fear is that Judgment Day will include a video that includes everything I've ever said, ever, and I'm going to have to watch it with my family and friends.
It has been a frequent Lenten practice for me to avoid lashon hara (evil tongue, which includes [negative] gossip). Which has led me to interesting consideration of what I think constitutes evil in speech. Is it always evil to speak negatively of someone? I don't think so-- but I think that speaking negatively of people without a constructive purpose is. Either I am profoundly dishonest-- as of course people often are-- or I'm just not very evil-tongued.
I made it until just now, 8:42 am, when I texted someone I was in a meeting to avoid calling that person back. We organized our event over texts but yeah. I lied. It was almost reflexive.
“Talk less. Smile more. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for.”
That’s great advice.
Lin-Manuel Miranda is a wise man.
THOUGHT it sounded familiar...
The truth isn’t what it’s cracked up to be
Many people prefer don’t ask don’t tell
I feel you from slightly afar, but I don't myself enjoy snark much-- and when I hear myself being sarcastic I know I'm losing my temper and need to take some time to collect myself.
I applaud your self-awareness. I am snarky sometimes without even meaning to be so.
“Forty years go by with someone laying in your bed
Forty years of things you wish you'd never said
How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead”.
Patty Griffith “Long Ride Home”.
Obviously this refers to an intimate relationship but, the bed part aside, it could apply to any relationship. I think sometimes snark or sarcasm aimed at someone who is being hypocritical or dishonest seems appropriate. The phrase “Well bless your heart” comes to mind. Other times it’s roots are in mean spiritedness and I always filter that out. Wait, that’s not true. Oh well, 10:22am (est). I tried.
My fear is that Judgment Day will include a video that includes everything I've ever said, ever, and I'm going to have to watch it with my family and friends.
Nightmarish.
It has been a frequent Lenten practice for me to avoid lashon hara (evil tongue, which includes [negative] gossip). Which has led me to interesting consideration of what I think constitutes evil in speech. Is it always evil to speak negatively of someone? I don't think so-- but I think that speaking negatively of people without a constructive purpose is. Either I am profoundly dishonest-- as of course people often are-- or I'm just not very evil-tongued.
Maybe that's why I hear so little hot goss. :D
If I had to give up snark for Lent, I’d give up Lent instead.
I would get on your train for this. I’m not snarky very often. But when I am I go super snarky maybe to make up for lost opportunities.
I accept the challenge! Will update you shortly :) as I suspect to fall off the assignment
I made it until just now, 8:42 am, when I texted someone I was in a meeting to avoid calling that person back. We organized our event over texts but yeah. I lied. It was almost reflexive.
Oh, absolutely, absolutely the same. Like I said, it's an alarm bell for me.
I do distinguish between frustration and sneering, so maybe I'm just a casuist. :D
Yes I could and I do almost everyday unless it will hurt someone.
Ditto.