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Mary Ann Dimand's avatar

Oddly, I'm abnormally honest. My average for lies used to be about one a year, and now it's up to about two, I think. This is certainly a matter of temperament now, but began in a resolve when I was in seventh or eighth grades, when I was alarmed to realize that when I did storytelling framed as lie, people believed me. And gradually over the next few years, when I recognized the damage people around me did themselves by lying to themselves.

It's partly because I genuinely don't want to deceive people, often. And it's partly because I want to preserve a facial appearance of honesty that makes my lies successful, when I employ them.

(I had a little trouble when I began to study French in high school, and had to decide to boycott participation in example sentences that required me to assert untrue things. Learning French and not being a major pain in the arsenal won swiftly, happily.)

All that said, I have never thought that truth telling required total disclosure. Thank God.

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Paul Ashton's avatar

It’s probably best and more complicated to start with the lies we tell ourselves.

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